I'm a Mom to a little boy who has Asperger Syndrome...this is our adventure.
Monday, December 14, 2009
Looking for the Silver Lining
The good news is, we are covered under benefits through his Severance time, which would put us through the middle of August, which is good since we just started Therapy for Kid Jedi's ADHD, and we may be able to go during the day and see the Psychologist we really wanted to see. And my wonderful parents are paying for me to get my Teacher's Certification, NJ has an alternate route for people with Bachelor's Degrees which doesn't require you to go back to college and pay those high tuition bills.
As difficult as this situation is, I really feel like it's a door opening rather than one closing...I just wish it wasn't right before Christmas!
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Tackle It Tuesday - To Do list
I've been battling some illness for the past several weeks, add to that being blue because of my parents heading back to FL and having to go back to work (not that I've found anything yet), not a lot has gotten done around this house lately. So this morning, I decided that, since, if I was working outside the home, I wasn't sick enough to stay home, I had to treat this job as any other job and get some stuff done. So today, my to do list is:
1. Switch laundry ( I went to bed with clothes in the washer & dryer) - Done
2. Change sheets - Done
3. Wash dishes - Done
4. Switch laundry (wash towels)
5. Straighten Living Room
6. Find something to organize Kid Jedi's Art Supplies
7. Call Dr. Mintz to make appointment
This is what I'm tackling today, let us know what you're doing and head on over to 5MFM for more tackles.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Affirmations and Assurances
Everything I do is worth it!!
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
It's been a loooong 2 weeks.
Well, health issues may not be the right term...I'll explain. When we decided to look into medication for Kid Jedi's ADHD, we went to see a Psychiatrist on staff at CHOP's ADHD Management Center. She wanted to see if Kid Jedi's iron levels were low since that can cause RLS which we know he has from his June Sleep Study, and while they were drawing blood anyway, she decided to check his liver functions for a baseline in case we did go to meds, also his B12 since my Grandmother and I have low B12 and his thyroid. Well getting the blood drawn was a nightmare, and it took us forever to get the results back...Iron within the normal range but on the low side of normal, Bilirubin a little low, Proteins a little high, ALT and GGT a little high...and B12 HIGH, and by high, I don't mean a little high, it is DOUBLE what it should be. So, being the English Major/Psych Minor that I am, I research. What does it come up as with a high B12, well, first almost nothing comes up for high B12 because most people have a deficiency, not an over-abundance, so the very few references I do come up with about High B12 (eliminating the ones from people who take B12) were that it is usually only seen in liver damage and Leukemia. Talk about scaring a poor mother to death.
So, I get in touch with Kid Jedi's pediatrician last week and we now have to get more bloodwork, fasting blood work at that. Did I mention that Kid Jedi's so deathly afraid of needles that it took both me and my loving husband holding him down to just have his hand held out for the tech to take his blood from his hand? Yeah, and we have to do this first thing in the morning. We are going at 7:45 the day after Thanksgiving. We also have to go to a GI specialist to go over what could be causing these issues.
I hate bloodwork, I know tests and screenings are really a good thing, but bloodwork? On an ADHD/Anxiety child? Who is so afraid of needles that he cowered when I got a Mantoux test? Come on.
On the positive side school has been going better. He still has bad days and we'd be lost without his Aide, but he's doing better. Oh, and the Aide told me that she thinks he's doing fine in a group setting, so meds are off the table, at least for now.
Oh, and I go to a temp agency tomorrow to get put on their rolls too, so maybe I'll work a little more. I'd really like to get some kind of permanent position at a school right now, either an Aide or long-term sub. I think I'm going to take the Praxis test and do the alternative route for a teacher's certificate.
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Tackle it Tuesday - Halloween costume
This week has been busy, to say the least, with looking for a job, I'm really trying to organize around here, but this week has been spent making Kid Jedi's costume. For Halloween, he'll be...a Jedi, Luke Skywalker to be specific. We went and looked at the costumes they were selling, and I didn't like them. I couldn't justify spending $40 for a costume made of cheap polyester when I could make it myself. So for $14, including the pattern, I made this.
The belt is a regular belt, it's a Pirates of the Caribbean Disney belt, but it's what he wanted to wear (and we already had it). This is Kid Jedi after Trick or Treating at Adventure Aquarium, they do a free trick or treat night (2 actually) each year for passholders.
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Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Tackle It Tuesday - Tackling Everything.
Saturday, October 3, 2009
Good first week back at school
Thursday the behavioral therapist came in and put Kid Jedi on a behavior plan, they divide the day into 14 segments, he starts on blue, one warning gets him green, two yellow and three red. If he gets green or yellow he gets a sticker. He needs to earn 11 stickers and he gets a reward when he comes home. Thursday he got 11 stickers, Friday 12.
The happiest part of the week for me, other than the smile on his face at pick up, was on Friday he told me how much he liked school. That's a big thing since last year he kept telling me that he wanted to stay home on the days he had PreK, he only went for 2-1/2 hours 3 days per week.
I'm waiting on my DH to decide what time of day is good for appointments so we can start counselling and for a call back from CHOP to get an appointment regarding medication (we still aren't sure what we are going to do, but figured going to the professionals would give us more and better information than we can get researching it on our own).
Kid Jedi's 1:1 shadow told me on Wednesday that she's already in love with him, he's such a great kid, his teacher gave me a lot of credit for being able to keep up with him. Oh, and Kid Jedi told me on Thursday that there's a little girl in his class at Table 1 and they are in love with each other.
We went to a birthday party for one of the little girls in his class on Friday night, everyone said hi to him and seemed excited to see him. And the birthday girl apparently always talks about him. I'm glad he's made a positive impression on the kids especially with as bad of a start to the school year as he had.
I'm not too happy that they don't seem to be incorporating what the doctor from CHOP had recommended for him in reference to keeping him challenged, especially since he thinks math is boring (they were drawing three of things one day). Of course, this is the first week and he has to walk before he can run and he needs to stay focused on what the whole class is assigned before he can get more challenging work.
On the down side, we had to pull him from karate. He wasn't improving his behavior there and we got a call on Wednesday from his instructor about doing individual lessons, but there was no way we could afford that, and I don't think that's the best thing for him right now anyway.
Here's hoping to an even better week next week.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
We have a plan!
There is an IEP in place, the doctor's recommendations were not included right now, they felt that they would go under the behavior plan that will be included when they get the behavioral therapist in, but, his wonderful teacher asked for a copy of the doctor's recommendations and I know she'll let his 1:1 know about it, I'll let the 1:1 know about it.
So what is included: Kid Jedi will have a 1:1 shadow every day all day at school starting Tuesday; his tutoring lesson on Friday as well as this coming Monday will be in his classroom to start transitioning him; the school OT will consult with him as needed once per week for 30 minutes (increasing to intervention or decreasing as needed); the behavioral therapist will be in to put a behavior plan in place and to work with Kid Jedi's teacher, 1:1 and us (and I will make sure that the doctor's recommendations are included); he will be removed from the classroom daily (like they do other children who need to work on reading, etc.) to work on following directions and focus (compliance is what they call it). Other than the doctor's recommendations not being directly included, I'm ok with the plan but I will keep on them especially since the doctor's recommendations include higher leveled work as needed.
All that being said, Kid Jedi will return to the classroom on Tuesday. His 1:1 will hopefully stop by during his tutoring session on Monday to meet him. He's excited, and scared. I'm nervous. The school is expecting him to get worse before he gets better.
As far as treatment, we haven't decided about medication, but, when we can get an appointment (they have a wait because of them being booked with appointments), we will be consulting with CHOP on that to make that decision (if we go, they do a full workup on him including an EKG before putting him on medication). We will be making an appointment this week to go back to the psychologist who diagnosed Kid Jedi for counseling...they are doing a research trial on a new therapy, but we'd have to either wait for the trial or wait for the meds (if we decide to do that) and we don't think that's in Kid Jedi's best interest.
On Friday during his tutoring, he did run out into the hallway once. This is a great improvement from his first week of school when he was in the classroom for 3 hours and ran out of the room, or tried to, 3 times; the tutoring session was 2 hours and he only left the room, or tried to once.
I picked up a notebook to send Kid Jedi back with which will be for us and his 1:1 to communicate in. I'm really nervous about letting him go, but I do know that this will be good for him.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Another step forward
Kid Jedi's been doing ok with his home instructor. I can really see his impulsivity when he works with her. He ran away from her twice today when he was supposed to be doing work, but, of course, things were different today than yesterday since DH and I were at the doctor's getting the report so my parents were here.
The doctor also told us of a clinical trial going on at the hospital comparing 2 different therapy protocols. We're trying to decide what to do with that. No meds at this point, we're not sure about that either especially with his asthma and he tested a little high on the anxiety scale and most of the meds increase anxiety. So, we have a lot of research and talking to do. But, hopefully we'll have a school plan in place and get Kid Jedi headed back to school.
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Chugging along
So, this week's tackle is just to get Kid Jedi learning some things, we did 1 hour of lessons this morning, he finished his lowercase alphabet section of the workbook and is almost finished the math readiness section, which is pretty good for an ADHD kid, we are taking a break right now and this afternoon we'll finish math readiness and do some reading. Library either today or tomorrow.
I also need to make Kid Jedi's allergist appointment for his Asthma, which is needed because he's starting to cough again.
I feel like the Little Engine that Could, and if I don't say "I think I can", I'm afraid I won't. I'll just keep going and we'll make it.
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Thursday, September 17, 2009
We have a diagnosis!!!
Well after finally getting in to see our doctor at 9:30, we talked, and talked, and talked about Kid Jedi's behavior, at home, in school, in Karate, from birth to now. Kid Jedi, at least, got to go play with the intern to get evaluated (I want his evaluation part next time). Then we got to answer some questions, go into more detail about things, bring Kid Jedi back in, go wait while the doctor and Kid Jedi played, again I want that part next time, and then some more talking.
Though we normally wouldn't have a diagnosis for about 2 weeks, since Kid Jedi's being kept home from school because the school can't or won't intervene until he's diagnosed, she told us that, yes Kid Jedi has ADHD, that's it, no anxiety, depression or ODD (which the Child Study Team thought he had), oh and of course he's gifted, which we knew, but she told us that he's actually more gifted than the IQ test shows because his ADHD causes false lows on those tests because of distractiblity. We (the hubby and I) go back next week for some ideas for intervention...no medication at this time (we saw a PhD, not an MD so if she wants meds, she has to refer us for a consult).
So, I call Child Study Team when I get home and tell them, yes he has ADHD, to which she asks about ODD, and I tell her, very proudly (and smugly) "Nope!" I didn't get into the giftedness, they should realize that with his test scores, but the psychiatrist will include recommendations for that in her report. Then, she asked for recommendations...hello...she's lucky we got a diagnosis. The way she talked previously, she had worked with other students going to CHOP previously, but apparently not, because otherwise she would have known that it usually takes at least 2 weeks for diagnosis and recommendations, not the same day. Of course, I pleasantly told her that we were lucky that we got a diagnosis, they only did that because of Kid Jedi being kept out of school. To which she responded that she would contact our principal and tell him what's going on.
I called the teacher's extension to let her know what was going on and to let her know that I would be attending Back to School Night tonight. I also thanked her for everything she's done. After all this, the little girl next store, who is in Kid Jedi's class, brought over a folder of some worksheets and papers for us, which I am grateful for. I'm so glad that even through this battle, Kid Jedi has a teacher who really cares about her students (even if he's too much for her classroom right now).
So today I call the Child Study Team, again, to see what we can expect next and the timeline that they have in mind for getting Kid Jedi back in the classroom!
Saturday, September 12, 2009
No school for a while
He was supposed to stay until 12, but I picked him up at 10:45 at the Guidance Counsellor's office, she was great with him. He actually drew a flower on the chalkboard, my son who can't stand to write or draw drew the most beautiful flower! Again, I heard how much he wants to please and how smart he is, but he just can't control himself.
Child Study Team thinks he may have ADHD, but he definitely has some sensory issues. We'll see on Wednesday. In the meantime, I'll work with him here which will probably put him even further ahead of where they are teaching. When I worked with him Thursday, I went over 25 sight words that he should know by the end of Kindergarten, well he knew 19 of them, and of the 6 he said he didn't know, I've seen him read 4 of them. We're now working on writing them.
The school is hiring an one-on-one aid for him, they are looking for someone who has experience working with kids like Kid Jedi. Hopefully this will all work out. He's too smart to let fall through the cracks!
Friday, September 11, 2009
Looong first week of school
I did mention to the principal that I didn't want Kid Jedi to fall behind, I almost heard laughter at that, he said that that would not be a problem, he was very impressed with his vocabulary, and apparently Kid Jedi is the only Kindergartner or First Grader who can say his (the principal) name correctly.
After the first day, we called the ADHD Management Team at CHOP to see if we could move Kid Jedi's 9/22 evaluation appointment up, he's now going 9/16 and if anyone cancels in the meantime, we'll go in even earlier, though at this point I don't think that will happen.
And to top all this off one of our cats died after Kid Jedi went to bed on the first day of school, so I got to pick him up early from the principals office and then tell him what happened. We decided to keep him home yesterday because he was having such a difficult time with dealing with the cat's death (and yesterday was a full day, not 1/2 like the first 2 days), we knew that he would be even more unbearable in school.
So as of right now, his interventions are a weighted vest (I hope this works, I put something on his lap yesterday while we were doing some work and it helped), and he will have a shortened school day until we see what CHOP recommends. Next Friday the Behavior Therapist comes in and a behavior plan will be in place. The Child Study Team will be providing me with a report to take to CHOP on Wednesday so they can see what his school behavior has been and what they decided to try.
Here's hoping today will be better.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Met Kid Jedi's Teacher
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Tackle it Tuesday - Ending summer
We have this one last week of summer, though I don't think we'll be heading to the pool since it's in the 70s this week. This week is the week that I make sure Kid Jedi goes to bed on time and gets up by 7 so he can be ready to be at school by 8:20. We are also reorganizing our home with a lunch station in the kitchen (Kid Jedi has full-day Kindergarten so we get to pack lunches for the first time), cleaning the launch pad and setting it up for backpacks instead of beach bags, getting an area in the kitchen or dining room set up so we have anything he'll need for homework together, and, well taking advantage of these last free days before schedules become our life.
I don't have any pictures yet since I'm still in the cleaning up stage, but, they will come (probably next week). I'm also looking for good, healthy, ideas for school lunches for a kid who doesn't eat a whole lot of fruits and veggies.
This is what I'm, sadly, tackling this week, head on over to 5MFM to see what other Moms are tackling and let us know what you are doing.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Kid Jedi is out of control!
We were told when we had the Child Study Team evaluation that Kid Jedi's problems in school were basically that he was bored because he knew what they were learning and since he has problems with things like coloring, which they use to teach the kids what Kid Jedi already knew, it was torture for him. He could use some orthotics to help with his balance and intoeing (which I've been trying to get someone to do something about for 2-1/2 years)...oh and there's a slight chance that he has Sensor Processing Disorder, so go buy a book and do what it says...a whole lot of help I can tell you. We went to the pediatrician and did get Kid Jedi the orthotics and they recommended a place to have him evaluated for Sensory Processing Disorder, but it's not covered by our insurance and it's $400 just for the 1-1/2 hour evaluation!! Well, we've put that off for a bit, not only because of the price but because my husband doesn't think Kid Jedi really has SPD, but that the Child Study Team put that out there to justify their evaluation, especially since the OT couldn't find anything wrong with Kid Jedi's pencil grip which the head of the Child Study Team said was very immature. Oh, and his non-verbal IQ is 129, overall 119 and that's with him refusing to complete a section of the test.
Anyway, back to the research, everything I kept coming across referred to ADHD, now I've been saying for a long time to anyone who listens that there's no way my son could have ADHD because he can sit all day and play with Lego blocks without a problem. Well at a family graduation party, my cousin told me her son had ADHD and she had the same reservation about the diagnosis, but they explained that they could hyperfocus at times too, and that's what I kept coming across, especially if they are in the impulse control/hyperactive side of ADHD and not the inattentiveness side. So, needless to say I called our pediatrician today and we are working with CHOPS Center for Management of ADHD to get him evaluated, we won't be able to actually see a doctor until the end of September or the beginning of October, but they do a full battery of tests - IQ, basic skills, depression, anxiety, and a 2 hour psych eval, the psych eval alone is about as much time as our Child Study Team spent evaluating him. To give due to the Child Study Team, since Kid Jedi was in preschool at the time of the evaluation, they had to look at him for early intervention and since his IQ was so high and he had no obvious learning disabilities, there wasn't much they could do. I do know that ADHD is not commonly diagnosed in 5 year olds, but we need something here. Since he's been out of school, he's just been getting more and more unruly, he even was sent out of Sunday School 2 weeks ago because he kept trying to crawl to the door.
I'll let you know how things go.
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Tackle it Tuesday - miscellaneous changes
Yesterday we signed Kid Jedi up for Karate which was recommended by the Child Study Team to help him focus, but in the evaluation, of course, he got distracted by the mirrors and ran around so he could see himself run and almost couldn't get signed up because he wouldn't refocus. So, we're hoping that he will pay attention in class and stay on task, otherwise we'll be looking for something else for him to do.
I have another yard sale this Saturday at the campground my parents stay at during the summer, so I'm getting lots of stuff together, I already sent down 2 totes full of baby toys, books, other baby equipment with my sister, and I'm working on getting more together, and though we could use the money to help pay down our credit cards, anything that doesn't sell is getting sent to VVA for a donation. We really need to get rid of the clutter in the house.
I have some more baby blankets and burpies to make, I may sell some of them at the yard sale, depending on if I can get them made.
And lastly this week I'm getting all my paperwork in for substituting. I was approved by the board, had an interview with the Junior/Senior High School yesterday and picked up my transcript, I am getting my fingerprinting done today and then I just have to get my drug screening done and go to the Dept. of Health to get my PPD/Mantoux test done.
Good bye clutter, hello freedom!!
This is what I'm tackling this week, let us know what you're tackling and head on over to 5MFM to see what other Mom's are doing.
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
The way we say things...
I remember when I went to school in Western PA, the oddest thing I ever heard was that they were going to "red up dinner", which, of course, means they were getting dinner ready.
These sayings as well as whether you call your carbonated beverages soda or pop and the totes that you bring your purchases home in bags or sacks are what make our language in the US so rich and identifiable, you can tell where people are from just from what they say or rather how they say it.
What interesting local sayings or words do you have?
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Ch-ch-changes
We also made a tough decision, we are getting rid of our credit cards and moving to be a cash only family, which will make things a lot tighter here at first, but in the long run, we will be blessed beyond measure for this change. Since this decision, I have been feeling much better about our situation, primarily because I hate credit cards.
I put my application in for Substitute teaching and once I get my criminal background check done, I'll be all set to get my license to sub and I'll be on the rolls at our local Junior/Senior High School. Once my license comes in, I'll put my name in our elementary school as well as the other 3 elementary schools that send to our HS. I'm nervous, but excited.
I can't wait to start paying down those credit cards, and it's going to be a big change since we've been relying on them a lot over the past 5 years, the journey may be long, but it will be steady and definitely worth it.
Oh, and I'm starting decluttering with having a yard sale with a friend of mine (our street isn't good for yard sales, but hers is) and I'm getting rid of a lot of Kid Jedi's baby things, like the travel system, umbrella stroller, etc. I will be keeping some outfits, etc., but if I don't need it, I'm letting it go!
I so feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders now that we aren't using credit cards and I'm getting rid of stuff. I'm beginning to realize that the stuff is what holds us down. Changes are coming, and they are all good!
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
In the Hot Seat at VBS
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Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Grandmom's Ginger{bread}
Grandmom's Ginger{bread}
2-1/3 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 cup shortening
1/3 cup sugar
1 cup molasses
3/4 cup HOT water
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon ground ginger
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon ground cloves
3/4 teaspoon salt
1 large egg
1. Heat oven to 325 degrees. Grease bottom and sides of 9x9x2 pan with shortening and lightly flour.
2. Beat all ingredients together with electric mixer (the electric mixer helps to break up the shortening) on low speed for 30 seconds, scraping bowl constantly. Beat on medium speed for 3 minutes, scraping bowl occasionally. Pour into pan.
3. Bake 50 - 55 minutes or until toothpick inserted in center comes out clean. You can serve this plain or with vanilla pudding, however you like your gingerbread.
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Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Tackle It Tuesday - Getting ready for changes
In preparation for me not having so much free time (or at least not being home as much), and with the realization that I'm probably done having children since being pregnant at 41 doesn't appeal to me too much, it's time to start really de-cluttering and getting ready for a fall yardsale. Everything is in the planning stage this week since Kid Jedi's been sick with a fever and cough since last Wednesday, finally feeling a bit better yesterday and Saturday, I got the fever.
I will be posting my progress on this endeavor. I think I'll start with going through Kid Jedi's toys, I gave him the incentive of whatever money we make with selling his toys he can use it to buy some Legos, now to figure out how to store them.
This is what I'm tackling head on over to 5MFM to see what other Moms are tackling.
Three Things You Didn't Know About Me
Three things you didn't know about me, well I could probably put any 3 random things here since there isn't much you do know about me, but here are 3 things even some of my friends and acquaintances may not know.
1. I can't stand the way sand feels when it sticks to your skin, but I love going to the beach with Kid Jedi and listening to the waves, even going out into the ocean sometimes.
2. I'm afraid to swim because when my father taught me to swim, he did that thing that parents do where they keep walking backwards and I panicked and thought I was going to drown, I've been afraid ever since.
3. When adults mispronounce things, it's like nails on a chalkboard to me, and here in South Jersey, there are some things that people do all the time like instead of pronouncing Acme "Ack-me" they pronounce it "Ack-a-me" or water "wooder" (there isn't a d in water and it's an a, not an o), bad grammar annoys me too but that's another story.
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Wordless Wednesday - pool fun
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Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Tackle It Tuesday - More baby gifts *Updated with pictures*
Well, now that I'm home from the free movie at our local United Artist Theater, I'm ready to finish my tackle. My Mom has a baby shower for a friend this weekend and she asked me to make some burpies, I usually make the ones made out of diapers with flannel down the middle and ribbon on either side of the fabric, and I am making them, but I got a pattern from YouCanMakeThis.com for a receiving blanket and one for burpies and I'm making them. Last night I cut everything out and pinned it up, today it will be sewing. Come by tomorrow to check out my pictures of the finished product.
****Update - Pictures****
This is everything I made: 4 burpies in 2 different styles, 1 receiving blanket:
This is the receiving blanket:These are the burpies I usually make:
These are the burpies that match the receiving blanket:
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Friday, July 3, 2009
I am worth it!
Anyway, like I said the way I've been feeling really isn't his fault, his behavior issues just made how I was feeling worse. Well, I kind of had a meltdown today and my wonderful husband and I discussed a few things that need to change in our home, nothing major, really just superficial things like organizing things, getting rid of clutter, things everyone has to do at sometime, but one thing he said to me, which is prompting this post, is that I need to figure out how to be happy with myself again. I don't really know the last time I was happy with myself and I'm not really sure why either. I'll be working this out here for a while I assume.
One thing I do know is my spiritual life is lacking, I've been looking for a church home, I found a church I really liked but I really wanted something a little closer so Kid Jedi would be able to participate in evening Bible study/AWANA type things...there's a closer church that a little boy from Kid Jedi's preschool class attends and I will be attending there to see what the services are like. But really, I just feel so far removed from God that it hurts.
Another thing I discovered in thinking today is that I really need to get over my perfectionist tendencies and competitiveness. My perfectionism paralyzes me at times, I tend to want things done so perfectly and I know I can't achieve that level so nothing gets done. I also compare myself, and my son and everything else, to everyone else and of course I never measure up, intellectually I know that I'm just as good of a mother and wife as everyone else, but I only see the aspects where I have difficulties and they don't seem to.
Don't get me wrong, I love my life, I love my husband and son more than anything in this world, they are my light. I just don't love me, I'm not happy with my weight, I'm not happy with how I clean house, I'm not happy that I will be going back to work next year. I miss being really happy about things, I used to be that girl that always smiled, now I feel like it's a chore to put on a happy face and the stress of Kid Jedi's issues at school and in certain social situations just makes it worse.
I know it will get better, and I know I need to work through a lot, and that's why I'm here writing at 1:00 in the morning, because I know, deep down, I really do know that I am worth taking care of and I am worth having a pleasant home, and I am worth just as much as anyone else.
Now if I could just move those feelings from my brain to my heart, I'll be good. Please bear with me as I go through all of this.
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Tackle it Tuesday #28 - Lego kits
Kid Jedi loves Lego bricks, and I mean loves them, he would play with them all day and night if we let him. Until the last few months though, he would ask for kits, his Daddy and I would build them with him and he'd proceed to tear them apart within days, sometimes hours. Well, since our collection is getting large, I decided that we should go through the pieces to the kits and rebuild the ships. This process has actually been going on for about a month.
I don't actually have any before pictures of this, but sad to say, this is where I am after putting all the remaining pieces into kits again.
This is what I did with the kits. If there were any pieces missing I put a note in the bag, and we are missing several pieces for some of the kits.
This is where we are putting his completed kits for now, we are working on a system to store his completed kits and his loose bricks, but we decided it would be best to build the kits we had first and go from there.
What I discovered in doing all this is:
1. We have a lot of kits.
2. We need a good system for storing pieces and keeping kits together or we will be replacing kits.
3. We need to get said system in place ASAP because...
4. We will be getting lots more Lego kits/bricks in the future.
5. If we are going to keep kits together we may want to buy duplicate kits so Kid Jedi can use the pieces to build his own creations too.
This is what I tackled this week, check out more tackles at 5MFM.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Wordless Wednesday: The semi-toothless grin
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Cancer Strikes again...
I HATE CANCER!!! I'm so sick of it taking everyone away from me and their families. Lisa left behind a young son, her Mom, her Dad, her brother, nieces & nephews, lots of aunts and uncles and too many cousins to count. My sincere hope is that she left us to go into God's heavenly arms.
Don't miss out on any opportunities to reach out to anyone that you love and you've lost touch with before you don't have a chance. I wish I had one more chance to talk to Lisa, to let her know how much she has always meant to me, how much I love her and how often I thought about her, that chance is gone, but I will be getting back in contact with her brother, that opportunity will not slip away.
Lisa...I will miss you!!!!
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Tackle It Tuesday #27 - Chocolate Chocolate Chip Cookies
So I live in a house of chocoholics, to the point that my wonderful husband bought chocolate peanut butter when he saw it in the store, he and Kid Jedi say it is good, I couldn't tell you, I'm not a big chocolate person. I decided that for Kid Jedi's preschool graduation (June 5) that I was going to make chocolate chocolate chip cookies, but since, as usual, I had more to do than I had time I made them from mix. Well, today I made the recipe that I found on Food Network and it got 2 thumbs up from Kid Jedi. Here's your recipe:
Chocolate Chocolate Chip Cookies
2-1/4 c flour
1 tsp salt
1 tsp baking soda
2 sticks butter, softened
1 c granulated sugar
1 c packed brown sugar
2 large eggs, beaten
1 Tbsp vanilla
1/2 c unsweetened cocoa
2 c chocolate chips or M&M's or 2 Hershey's chocolate bars, chopped
1 c chopped walnuts (optional)
Preheat oven to 375 degrees. In a bowl, stir together flour, salt, and baking soda. In another large bowl, stir together butter, both sugars, eggs, vanilla and cocoa. Gradually stir flour mixture into butter mixture and mix until combined. Add chocolate chips and walnuts, if using, and stir to distribute evenly.
Drop by tablespoonfuls onto greased baking sheets and bake about 10 minutes (I had to cook them for 12 minutes on Airbake pans). Cool for 2 minutes on pans, transfer to cooling racks to cool completely.
Enjoy!
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Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Tackle it Tuesday #26 packing
Ok, no photos for this one. Kid Jedi had a sleep study last night and that left me exhausted beyond all reason. However, we will be heading to the shore tomorrow morning early; as in get up, eat breakfast and get in the car, so today I will be tackling packing for our trip. It's only for overnight at my parents' trailer at a campground, but since it's the first one of the season, games and some books have to go down too. So today, we will be deciding what games and books we can do without at home for the summer and pack some clothes, load up the car. We will probably be at the campground by 9 am tomorrow.
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Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Tackle It Tuesday #25 - Foyer
Well, Kid Jedi graduates from preschool this Friday and we're having family over for a mini-celebration. So, I figured I should get some cleaning done. Today it was the foyer. These are before:
This is the bench we have to use as our launch pad, obviously nothing is launching right now.
The steps going upstairs, this is where I put things that need to go upstairs, obviously I haven't taken things up to put them away in a while.
From the front door:
The after pictures will be posted later today, I'm waiting for my floor to dry from being scrubbed so I can put the bench, coat tree and shoe basket back.
(EDIT)
Here are the after pictures:
And the on the bench/Launch Pad are the teacher gifts for Kid Jedi's teacher and assistant (Popcorn bowl with Caramel Popcorn and Chocolate Drizzle Popcorn from Dale & Thomas).
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Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Tackle it Tuesday #24 - Giraffe Lovey finished
Well a few weeks ago, I had blogged that I intended to finish this lovey for my friend who was due June 23. Well this past Saturday, we were blessed to have a new little girl in this world. She was a few weeks early, but healthy. She's now home with her loving Mom, Dad and big brother. Anyway, I spent yesterday finishing the lovey.
It came together really quickly and I love the way it looks. I will definitely be looking at more sewing ideas from You Can Make This. As a matter of fact, my next sewing project is a handbag pattern I got from there.
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Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Tackle It Tuesday #23 - Giraffe Lovey
This weeks tackle it is for a friend of mine who is due with baby #2 on June 23. I got this great pattern from You Can Make This and my kid Jedi picked out the giraffe lovey to make. So far, I've pieced the pattern together and laid out the pieces.
Today I will be cutting and, hopefully, sewing. You'll have to check back to see how it looks.
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Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Tackle It Tuesday #22 - laundry on the line
See, clothes on the line. I love that smell, but of course now I'm sneezing all over the place.
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Sunday, April 26, 2009
Back to Weight Watchers
It's hard for me to focus on me, it always has been, but as a Mom, it's even harder, but if I don't focus on me, I won't be here for my family. It makes me sad that my son even sees me as fat, well having a big belly anyway, and he's only 5. I know he loves me and fat vs thin isn't a big deal, but it made me realize that I'm not being a good example for him, so today, I start. Today I work on me so I can help him.
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Celebrate our Earth
This year in honor of Earth Day, we will be, weather permitting, working in our garden. We usually plant a tree or a nice bush, this year we will be putting in a euonymous but I don't know if it will be today. In further effort to be good stewards, we are making a compost pile and a raised garden for vegetables. Inside, we are slowly converting to green cleaners, right now we are using Green Works, Seventh Generation and Method products, but I would like to switch to homemade products which are even better for the environment because of less packaging and shipping costs.
Happy Earth Day! Enjoy the wonderful planet that God gave us to take care of.
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Tacke it Tuesday #21 - Prayers for a little boy
Today, I tackle prayers, and lots of them for a little boy, his family and his doctors and nurses. God is good!
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Friday, April 17, 2009
Thank you to my parents
I got so upset with his behavior today that I wound up calling his pediatrician to see what I should do. Basically she said that since his behavior is fine at home it's probably not behavioral, but rather a maturity thing for school. He's being evaluated by Child Study Team because of his preschool teacher wanting him to be evaluated and the pediatrician said that that's the best bet for school behavior. She also recommended a sleep study since he wakes up tired even after the 11 - 11.5 hours sleep he gets each night.
So, once again to my parents. Thank you for always loving me and supporting me no matter how unbearable I was and I'm sorry for all the times I was difficult.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Cleaning House, moving on
When we had our kid Jedi as he calls himself, we intended to have 2 children, but with me being a SAHM and finances being what they are and the economy basically taking a downturn from the moment I stopped working, gas prices jumped over $0.50 per gallon the week my son was born and continued to escalate from there, well it became apparent that we couldn't afford a second child. Oh, I fought it, I packed away his clothes to hold onto for another one in case we had another boy. Last year I started to slowly, very slowly, release the hold these things had on me. I started to lend the clothes to a friend of mine. As we all know when you lend, you may not get back, or at least not get back in wearable condition. I have to say she did OK with them.
Well, now I'm giving them away. I've been slowly going through the totes to get rid of all the clothes I don't have some bizarre emotional attachment to, and I'm going to finish that up this spring. Today, I was going through my maternity clothes, and this was just as difficult as going through kid Jedi's clothes if not more so since I haven't tackled anything under 18-24 months of his clothes. The church I go to MOPS at, and I've recently started attending services there too, has a maternity closet. Well I have maternity clothes so I was going to give them my tote and 1/2 of maternity clothes, I say going to for 2 reasons, 1 - sad to say there were a couple of outfits I loved so much that I am holding on to for about another year or so just in case God's plans aren't our plans and 2 - we aren't going to MOPS today since my son has a cold. The clothes are packed up to go, I set a couple things aside for one of my friends who is pregnant with her second child, but most of it's going, I kept 3 outfits, a dress, a pair of jeans that I loved, a sweater and a cardigan, and those things I didn't feel right donating, you know lingerie.
It is still going to be a slow, emotional process for me, because I'm still not really ready to admit that kid Jedi will be an only child and, well, it's difficult for me to let go of anything. But the process has started, and like the lady who runs the maternity closet said, my clothes will be in the maternity closet if I ever need to borrow them back.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Tackle it Tuesday #20 - Photo organization and ordering
Spring cleaning is coming too, it would have been this week, but rain kind of makes cleaning windows difficult.
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Tuesday, April 7, 2009
HELP!! My life is not mine
Anyway, we also spent most of last week making an Easter bonnet for my son, yes an Easter bonnet for a boy. They had an Easter Parade at school on Friday. You can see here what we did for his bonnet.
This week we are cleaning and baking. My sister gave me an Amish Friendship Bread starter which is great but I have no one to give the starters to because there is no school this week and chances are I won't see anyone, so my sister is getting 2 back, one for her and one for her friend that gave it to her and then I have to figure out what to do with the other starter and bread baking day is tomorrow.
Hopefully when we go back to school next week, maybe even by the end of this week, things will calm down and I won't want to pull my hair out every day, oh and maybe my insomnia will go away too.
I so can't wait for summer vacation!
Tackle It Tuesday #19 - Easter Parade
This past Friday, my son had an Easter Parade at his preschool. For this parade, all the children needed to make Easter bonnets out of paper plates. Do you have any idea how difficult it is to make a non-girly Easter Bonnet? Well, we came up with a boy theme, dinosaurs. It has dinosaurs in plastic Easter eggs and a paper volcano.
Here's my son in his hat:
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